I flirt a good game, but when it comes time to actually pull the trigger, I’m completely ineffective. Well not completely, but more often than not. I’m quite simply outside of my comfort zone when it comes to making bold moves with women, which is not to say that I haven’t, but it’s not where my mind goes right away. The situation I found myself in tonight was a perfect example of doing everything right, up till the need for a bold move. Granted, the results of any bold move in this particular instance would have ultimately resulted in awkward circumstances later on, but it still serves to illustrate a point.
I guess this is something I’ve been more or less aware of for some time and at the very least, having it all brought into such stark relief is worth something. Truth be told, I never dated much until I was an adult and even then, never so much as I have in the last couple of years. I’ve always fallen into relationships from well within my comfort zone before, now I find myself needing to be bold and it’s not something I’m well practiced at. Most people figure this stuff out before now, but I’ve never been most people. Still, knowing one’s shortcomings is the first step to overcoming them. It’s not something I’m incapable of, it’s just something I’m not used to and when it comes down to it, I just need to aware of when the bold moves are needed and stop second guessing myself. It doesn’t matter how old you are, there’s always something new to learn.
